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Mean Girl Syndrome?

Thursday, November 17th, 2011

A recent poll in Brides Magazine asked the question, “How did your best friend react when you got engaged?”  I immediately thought of the movie Mean Girls.  I’m not exactly sure why, but I suppose it had something to do with those who display disingenuous enthusiasm for others’ good news when they actually have very different feelings about said news.  Maybe it also had something to do with the fact that I was silently recalling these brilliant lines:

Regina: Oh my God, I love your skirt! Where did you get it?
Lea Edwards: It was my mom’s in the ’80s.
Regina: Vintage, so adorable.
Lea Edwards: Thanks.
Regina: [after girl walks away] That is the ugliest f-ing skirt I’ve ever seen.

That scene pretty much capsulizes the thought process in some females heads, and is so spot on in some situations that it makes it that much funnier. This, however, is not the sentiment you, as a bride, would want to be on the receiving end from a real friend.

The magazine poll also tallied percentages and found that 42% of brides said yes, their friends were jealous of their engagement.  And 11% of these brides have seriously considered breaking up with a friend over their wedding.

So how do you handle the delicate subject matter?  Will it matter to you if you best friend has a problem with it?  Do you truly have such a close relationship that if she does have a problem with your impending nuptials that you will take it as a “red flag” on the situation, and maybe she sees something that you do not?

Here are some responses that brides shared with us when they told their BFFs the big news.

Holly from San Diego said, “My boyfriend, Brian, took me; my best friend, Jessica; and her boyfriend on a hike.  At the top of the mountain, Brian popped the question. Jessica was sobbing-near the edge of the giant cliff.  She could have fallen!”

“Marisa was in a coffee shop when I called, and she started crying on the phone, she was so happy.  A few days later, she drove seven hours just to celebrate with me.” – Maria from Philadelphia.

Catharine from Milwaukee said, “She threaten my now husband that if he ever hurt me in any way, she would get on a plane and kick his you-know-what.  She was kidding – she’s genuinely happy for us.”

“My best friend immediately started planning a lingerie shower – which was quickly voted down by my other best friend.  It was a sign of how the rest of the planning process would go.” – Emily Asheville, NC

“She gave me a lame excuse about why she couldn’t be my maid of honor: She had had a broken engagement several years prior and had never gotten over it.  I still invited her, but she didn’t attend – and she forbade her family from attending, too!” – Sonya, Boston

“My fiance had arranged for all my closest friends to come to Chicago during the weekend we got engaged.  My best friend, who lives in Texas, was unable to come, but she surprised me with a video of her and her family sending me their best wishes.” – Ashley, Chicago

So I believe when it comes down to it, a true friend will only want to see you happy in the long run.  It may require them to bite their tongue from time to time, but if they see you being truly happy, they will (or should) be happy for you too.

 

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A little something for your Best Man!

Wednesday, November 10th, 2010

Photo By élan Imaging

Getting your wedding party all on the same page for your big day is crucial. Here’s a little something you can pass on to the best man for some insight into his job.

Being chosen as a best man is a great honor and has some responsibility. You might have been chosen because you’re the groom’s brother or maybe you have known each other since you were playing with GI Joes in the sand box. What ever the circumstance,  you have an important role in the wedding. Don’t know where to start? We’re here to help. Traditionally, the best man is expected to:

  • Plan and host the bachelor party.
  • Make sure all the groomsmen know when and where the rehearsals and wedding activities take place.
  • Get the groom to the wedding on time.
  • Make sure all groomsmen are on time, dressed appropriately and ready to seat guests if they are ushering.
  • Take charge of the wedding rings and present them during the ceremony when the officiant asks for them.
  • Sign the marriage license as an official witness.
  • Act as a host during the wedding. Welcome guests, mingle, and make introductions.
  • Give a toast at the reception.
  • Distribute gratuities on behalf of the bride and groom.
  • Drive the couple to the reception and honeymoon suite if there is no limousine service or other transportation.

Montage Features: Top (Left and Right) Andy Sams Photography, Bottom (Left and Right) Peacock Photography

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